As a Korean American transracial (read: adopted by white parents) adoptee, anytime an adoption-related story goes viral, my stomach lurches. Not just ones like the most recent viral story of YouTubers Myka and James Stauffer, who posted a video in June describing how they gave up their adopted Chinese son, Huxley, allegedly because of his disabilities. I also mean stories like the boy whose entire kindergarten class attended his adoption hearing. And the first adoptee in Gerber baby history. And video after video of foster children learning that they’re going to be adopted. They’re all part of the same damaging white-savior adoption narrative that silences adoptee voices, and turns stories of trauma into feel-good news clips.